In my last “Are you Stuck” post I talked about poor self-image as a limiting belief and provided you with some statements that you may be saying to/about yourself. This time I want to address the issue of being stuck living in the past.
All your experiences are recorded in the past which makes it valuable as a learning resource for the present and the future. Dwelling on past mistakes or reliving miserable memories is self-defeating. They cannot be changed. If you want to grow, let go of the past, live in the now and plan your future around what is most important to you.
If you answer “yes” to a number of the following statements, you are probably living in the past:
I dwell on the past
I underestimate myself
I can’t make decisions
I don’t enjoy life
There are things about my past that I resent
I worry about the past
My past has a large impact on me
I have troublesome memories of the past
I am too conventional
I am resistant to change
I block out the future
I pay too much attention to past procedures and policies
I continue to relive past memories and situations
I lack imagination for the future
I go by the rules
I don’t have much fun
I seldom consider alternatives
I am dull and boring
I go to the same spot for vacation every year
These are just a few of the negative ways you may be allowing the past to control you. Start paying attention to the moment you are living, see the positive in every situation (there is always one if you look hard enough) and start doing things differently. Learn EFT and let it be the first step in helping you get out of the past and into the present. For more information on EFT, visit http://budurl.com/WorldCenterforEFT
Are you Climbing the Wrong Tree?
Many Baby Boomers hit midlife only to discover that real happiness is still elusive even though they are successful and appear to have everything they want, or at least that’s the way it seems to everyone else. They are suffering from Passion Deficit Disorder.
Without passion they are “climbing up the wrong tree.” Many people get into jobs, careers, businesses and relationships because “they fell into them”, “it seemed like a good idea at the time”, “my parents said I should”, “I didn’t know what else to do.” They can come up with numerous reasons for where they are in life but none of them involve “it’s my passion … my purpose … my destiny.”
If you’re climbing up the wrong tree, the best strategy at this point is to get down. That makes a great deal of sense but we sometimes forget the basics and continue climbing, either in a career situation or in personal circumstances. Instead of getting down and heading in a new direction (i.e. a different tree), we unfortunately attempt to develop other strategies to try and make sense of a continued climb up the same tree.
Some of these “strategies” could be described as:
- Buying a longer ladder
- Forming a committee to study the tree
- Arranging a visit to other groups to see how they climb the wrong tree
- Lowering the standards so that the “wrong tree” can be included
- Hiring an intervention team to feed the tree and give it a new lease on life
- Reclassifying the tree as “the right tree”
- Hiring a partner to climb the wrong tree with you
- Buying a more sturdy ladder for greater speed in climbing the wrong tree
- Rewriting expectations for the tree
- Adding a second ladder on the other side of the tree for a different perspective
- Declaring that this smaller tree requires less of a cash outlay
If you would like to climb the “right” tree, the one that is perfect for you, contact me at evelin(at)blueprints4change.com and I’ll help you discover where that tree is and how to start climbing faster than you ever thought possible!
Passion Leads to Success
A new study (The Coming Entrepreneurship Boom) by the Ewing Marion Kauffman Foundation indicates that the US might be on the cusp of an entrepreneurship boom because of the aging population. It seems that the greatest number of those getting into the entrepreneurial mode belongs to the 55-64 age group. The days of finding security with an institution that’s “too big to fail” are over.
Have you been thinking of starting a business? If so, are you following your passion? There is nothing greater that you can do with your life and your work than follow your heart. The secret to success is getting clear on those things that are the most important to you, being committed to focusing on them on a daily basis and taking some small step in that direction.
Ask yourself three important questions – do I love it (whatever business it is I am thinking about), do I have the skills to be good at it and does the world need it? If the answer to all three is YES, then you have a winning combination.
To find your mission in life is to discover the intersection between your heart’s deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger – Frederick Beekner
If you don’t have a clue as to your passions, take The Passion Test™ and let it guide you in finding and clarifying those five things that you would love to be, do or have in your life. When you find your passion, your enthusiasm for your business will be unstoppable. Almost all of the individuals whom I have guided through The Passion Test™ have responded with something like “It’s been an eye-opening experience” or “I never would have guessed that these are the five things that are the MOST important to me.”
To take The Passion Test™ online, go to http://budurl.com/pton or contact me if you would like some hands-on personal coaching.
If you are in the Washington DC area and would like to attend a Passion Test class, I will be holding a 3-hour workshop on Saturday, June 27 from 10:00am – 1:00pm. You can get more information or register at http://www.takeaclass.org
I remember the first time shin splints paid me a visit! It was my first morning in Sydney, Australia, after having just spent 24 hours on a plane flying in from Washington DC. The air was crisp and clear, the harbor was sparkling in the sunshine and I was jogging excitedly in one of my favorite areas of the city. It felt like I could run forever. But then I started feeling a pain in my shins and before long I was hobbling back to the hotel. If you’ve ever experienced shin splints, you know how that felt and what the next day was like!
What are shin splints?
Shin splints involve small tears in the muscle fibers or connective tissue along the tibia (the inner/larger leg bone of the lower leg). The pain resides over a long area. (Note that pain in a specific place may indicate a stress fracture of the bone rather than shin splints.) Shin splints may result from an imbalance between the strong muscles in the back of the leg and the weak muscles in the front of the leg. If in doubt about the injury, consult a physician.
The following are some ways to help prevent shin splints or recover from them:
* Check your shoes. Shoes should have good arch support and overall cushioning. Replace running and walking shoes every 400 to 500 miles or every six to eight months.
* Walk on your heels. This exercise will help you to build muscle in the front part of your lower leg. Take long steps until your shins begin to burn. Gradually increase the length of the time you can walk this way without feeling the burn. Do this daily.
* Ice cups. Freeze water in a paper cup, peel back the top, and moisten the ice with water and rub over the injury. Do this for five to seven minutes/four to six times a day.
* Switch exercises. Choose a low-impact activity while you are healing.
* Change exercise surfaces. Run or walk on a soft but level surface. The shin splints should improve within two weeks.
When I was first asked to do some lectures on getting better sleep in order to be more productive, my first thought was “How many people are going to attend this?” Did I get a surprise! This turned out to be a popular topic, particularly for the more mature audiences.
If you’re a typical Baby Boomer, you may be finding that it’s becoming increasingly difficult to get the amount of sleep that you need. This can be due to health issues, medications or as a normal part of aging. Not to mention the snoring of a spouse!
As we age, the various sleep stages are affected. The deeper stages are reduced and replaced with more of the lighter stages of sleep. In addition, sounds and interruptions are more likely to awaken us. Have you ever felt as if you could be awakened by a mouse tiptoeing through the room? Another aspect is that sleep tends to be spread more across the 24-hour cycle rather than just at night.
What to do?
Here are some simple tips for getting a better night’s sleep:
Create a healthy sleep environment.
— Keep your bedroom for s** and sleeping. Get rid of the piles of magazines and books, the treadmill, the TV and discussions about bills and other negative topics.
— Make sure your bedroom is well ventilated and at a comfortable temperature. The optimum temperature is 60-65 degrees F.
— Consider keeping pets out of the bedroom. Did you know that 21% of dogs snore!
— Hide the clock and the night light. Even a small amount of light will affect your body’s production of the sleep hormone.
— Use blackout curtains or blinds. If you can see your hand when you hold it up in front of your face, it isn’t dark enough.
Keep a regular sleep/wake schedule. Try not to vary it by more than one hour.
Be light-wise. Avoid excess light before bedtime but expose yourself to bright light within 5 minutes of waking.
Avoid stimulants (coffee, nicotine, colas) late in the day.
Don’t drink alcohol before bed. It may help you fall asleep but will wake you up later on when it’s being metabolized by the body.
Don’t exercise or eat heavily before bed.
Don’t nap after 3:00pm. It may undermine your nighttime rest.
Numerous studies have been done around the topic of whether we actually need less sleep as we age. A recent UK study seems to indicate that this is in fact the case. So if you’re sleeping less than 8 hours a night, it may just be a natural consequence of aging.
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August 12, 2009 7:27 pm | 
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